Why you should never judge others. 

It is easy to look at others lives from afar and make simple assumptions about their lives. We often forget that we have no personal insight into their true lives and what has transpired prior to the point in their life where what we are witnessing as occurred. 

Why you should not to judge others

 1. Deceptive Façade

I am a book lover and I have a tendency of buying books just because I liked the cover. And many of us do that, ‘this looks pretty, let’s buy it’. Even the food we consume should soothe the eyes before it touches the tongue and do any good for the body. Visual senses in most people are more developed than the other senses. But have you heard of the phrase, “Don’t judge a book by its cover”? And are we applying it our lives? Most of us try, but fail. Every time you find yourself judging someone because the person or scenario is incomprehensible for you, try asking, ‘Do I know the full facts of the situation?’ or ‘Will I react like this if faced with a similar situation?’. The answer you will receive might intrigue to initially, but it will set you free.

 2. Karmic paths

The theory of karma believes that we are all here to fulfill our karmic debts by doing good or bad and in the process learn or overcome thoughts, beliefs and desires we need to know or let go off. Our neighbor, the teacher, the boss, your partner or your close friend, even your dog, we are all on different paths to fulfill the karmic obligations we have got ourselves into and with the help of acts we are performing, we are setting ourselves free from the karmic ties. Don’t judge because you are not on the same path. A prostitute who worships God in the day is better than a priest who is in the temple, but thinks of all the evil possible. His karmic path might be different than that of the prostitute but both are working their way to perform the actions they were sent here to perform.

3. Complete story

In most of the cases you will find yourself judging when you do not know the complete story. Let me share a story here, once an old man lived in a village with a white horse and his son. He never sold the horse even after high amounts were offered to him. And one day the horse disappeared, everybody told the old man that he was a fool to not sell it now the horse had been stolen. The old man asked them not to judge, but to just say the horse is not here. Then the horse came back with 12 others horses. People said to him that he was right & lucky to have 12 more horses now. Again the old man asked them not to judge & just say the horse is back with 12 others horses. His son trained the horses and one day he fell to break his leg. The people of the village again judged and said to the old man that his only son will not be any good for him, he is poorer than before. Again the old man asked them not to judge & just say that his son has lost a leg. The country went on a war and all the men were forced to join the army only the old man’s son was left. People wept for their sons and told the old man he is lucky he had his son with him. Again the old man asked them not to judge just said his son is with him. The moral of the story is, life comes in fragments and it is best we do not judge others or ourselves in various situations.

4. Human tendencies

For years we have fed our mind with the difference between good and bad, ugly and beautiful. Our mind has accustomed itself to things that were fed into it. So when we look at others and feel she/he is right in doing this and wrong in doing that, we are actually looking at them with the frame of tendencies we wore when we were born. It is like a mirror. The image we form of others is the image we have of ourselves. Whenever we find ourselves critical of someone or some situation, we should remind ourselves we are looking at a mirror. Jung talks about archetypes in such situations where we project our alter ego on someone else, the things we want to do but cannot due to societal pressure. When we find someone else doing what we like, but we can’t do, we form a judgment about them. So may be for someone smoking is an ill and when they see others doing that, they assume them to be non-conformist, evil and immoral. Whereas that is something they want to give a try themselves.